It is indeed overwhelming. I’m being cautiously optimistic though: if we keep trying to fix it, we may end up finding a solution 
The VoidLinux problem is inspiring in that regard: their biggest issue turned out to be their inability to rebuild their infrastructure, which is a problem that is actually easy to solve as long as you make the right choice from the beginning.
Since fedeproxy is in its infancy, maybe we can make good choices right now. It could be to not distribute anything via pypi or not have a forum based on discourse because it only works in a centralized way. Not having a forum now would be painful for me right now but maybe it’s worth it if it saves fedeproxy from the problems of a centralized resource in the future?